Monday, December 30, 2013
New Year's Regrets Burn Away in Ecuador
By Dan Prescher
My wife, Suzan, and I rarely know too far in advance where we'll be for the holidays. We haven't lived in the U.S. for a dozen years now, but around about September or October we start making the decisions about what to do for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year...whose family back in the States we'll spend which holidays with...and which holidays, if any, we'll spend by ourselves at home, wherever home happens to be at the time.
For the past few years, home has been Ecuador, and we've been here several times for New Year's Eve. It's actually called Old Year, or Año Viejo, here. Between Christmas and December 31st, most every local family makes a dummy out of old clothes and sits it outside their home or business. This effigy represents the old year and all the things about it that you'd like to just set on fire and be done with...lousy politicians, unfaithful lovers, annoying celebrities, all are fair game. You can even buy cheap papier mache masks in local mercados of some of the worst politicians, sports figures, terrorists, and TV stars to give a face to your dummy.
But the mask is actually optional. What really goes in the dummy are your regrets, your mistakes, the bad habits you couldn't kick, the crummy things you did to someone else or the crummy things they did to you that you can't let go of. The cigarettes you wish you hadn't smoked, the weight you didn't lose, the rum you couldn't keep from drinking, the willpower you lacked, the determination you didn't show. If there isn't something you can actually put inside the dummy to represent those things, like a cigarette or a chocolate bar or a booze bottle, you write down on a piece of paper what you want to get rid of from the old year and tuck it inside the dummy's shirt.
Then at midnight on December 31st, all the effigies are put to the torch. They burn in intersections and on street corners and on curbs and sidewalks all over the country.
It's a wonderful tradition and we love being part of it. It only adds to the relevance and poignancy of the ceremony that by midnight most of the adults involved are drinking and smoking their brains out. And while they party and dance around the burning effigies, they all sincerely believe that this is it...tomorrow is a new day and a new year.
Last chance to indulge in those old habits and regrets. The next time the sun comes up, it's all going to be different. We'll be better. We'll be happier. We'll be stronger. We'll be freer.
And of course, for most of us the new year will be exactly like the old year, which is why this ceremony sticks around and gets repeated every year. If it worked as advertised, you'd only have to do it once.
But there are some people for whom the new year really will be very, very different than the old year, no matter what. Like you, perhaps, these are the people who, after lots of study and research and soul searching and preparation, make the move they've always wanted to make...to another country, another culture, and another way of life. They become expats.
They've performed the Año Viejo ritual for real in their own lives, even if they don't realize it at the time. They've chucked it all and taken a seat on the plane. And wherever they end up after that flight, the next time the sun comes up things really will be different for them.
We've seen those folks dancing around their own Año Viejo effigies throughout Latin America, the ones who've burned their fears and regrets and turned to face a new and promising future. To really do something like that...to not just burn a dummy on a street corner but to truly let go of the old and turn to face the new...is not for everybody. It takes a tolerance for change, a sense of adventure, an appetite for novelty and challenge. It takes some guts.
But it's not hard to tell the ones who manage to make that move successfully. In their new homes abroad, when the clock strikes midnight and the match is struck, they watch the Año Viejo effigies burn with a particular satisfaction, a knowing smile, and a special appreciation for what the fire and the smoke represent.
They get it.
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